I can't believe that it has taken me this long to bring this offer to all the beautiful women out there. What was I thinking? I mean, I often see women clients, but always with their partner in bookings, It just didn't click until a friend of mine and I got talking about this very thing over the weekend. So, thank you to my dear friend for making me aware.
I know that most of my readers here are male so I am going to ask a favor of you please . If you could somehow help point this blog post in the right direction, well, that would be awesome.
A sensual massage for a woman by a woman might conjure up images that mean you have to stay seated at your desk for a little while longer, so let me take advantage of this opportunity to tell you a little bit more about the benefits of sensual massage for a woman that may not be so obvious at first.
Let me set the stage. For starters, depending on which research article you read, approximately only 46% of women orgasm during intercourse, while 70% of women need direct clitoral stimulation.
Some women never orgasm ---- ever -- approximately 10% of women. Never -- ever --
More stats while I'm at it. Apparently our pain threshold can increase by107% during orgasm, and we have 8,000 nerve endings in our clitoris alone!
Only 1 in 10 women "ejaculate" when we cum, only 1 in 10. We don't all gush, those are just the lies that porn tell you. 15% of woman have multiple orgasms --- (I'm happy to say that I am a card carrying member of that group, thank you very much) ...but back to the stats, There are way too low. So why are women having less pleasure in the boudoir then? What's going on?
Well, a whole host of things really, and this where the Sensual Massage for Woman by a Woman comes in, but more on that later.
Firstly -- shear anatomy. Or to quote Laurie Mintz, author of "Becoming C literate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters,
"The number one reason .... and its not the only one -
is our cultural ignorance of the clitoris"
According to Mintz, it is the vulva and not the vagina, that experiences the most sexual pleasure. The clitoris (which means "key" in Greek) actually sits outside the vulva altogether. So not in the vagina, and not in the vulva. Outside of the action, outside.
Porn depicts women having multiple orgasms (15% remember) while gushing copious amounts of fluid (only 1 in 10 women do that - remember) while having intercourse.(only 46% report orgasm this way).
Wrong, wrong, wrong. Statistically, it doesn't add up now does it. So what has this well meaning porn industry done? Well, everyone feels a bit less than now don't they? The woman, for not gushing and cumming multiple times on you, and you feeling less than because you weren't able to make her gush and cum multiple times all over you. Bad porn, bad bad porn. Shame on you.
Unfortunately, this is just the beginning of the roadblocks between some woman and Utopia.
Add to this decades of societal, cultural and religious belief systems which have created the Madonna/Whore complex. You know the one. Every guy wants the girl that will put out, but no guy wants to take that girl home to meet his mother!
Good girls don't enjoy sex. Good girls don't do naughty things like put your cock in their mouth now do they? Good girls won't tell you what they like, heck, Good girls don't know what they like, they are just doing their wifely duty. "Lay back and think of the Queen ladies! It will be over in a jiffy"!
Then there is the fear of not pleasing your partner, so intstead of speaking up, bad sex becomes the norm, at least for the non-orgasming woman.
Self -esteem and body issuesvalso litter the road to happiness. What does it look like? What does it smell like? What does it taste like? Do you know how many women have actually ever even seen their own Va jay jay?? I mean, its no easy feat to sneak a peak of your own palace. The first time I got a good look at my pleasure dome was about 6 years ago when a client asked me to send him a picture of my pride and joy. I have to admit, its kinda pretty, but it wasn't really what I expected at first. I mean, I don't really know what I was expecting. But there you have it. I even keep a few pictures of my Va jay jay now. I haven't named it though, that's just weird.
So why Sensual Massage for a Woman by a Woman?
For many women, the idea of sexual pleasure seems out of reach. For some, there may be a history of sexual trauma, for others perhaps there have been physical issues related to the various stages of womanhood. Menses, miscarriage, abortion, childbirth or even menopause. All of these can cause the woman to hold trauma in her womb. Trauma that cause pain, especially during sex.
Sensual touch can help woman reconnect or perhaps connect for the first time to their sexual self. It may awaken dormant desires or ignite a low libido.
For some women, receiving this compassionate and sensual touch that is reserved only for them and their pleasure, can help the woman regain confidence in her sexual self. For the woman, she can relax into her body knowing that their is no pressure on her to reciprocate or even to climax.
While this massage can arouse the woman erotically, orgasm is not the objective. For the woman, she only has to consiously receive the touch, enjoy her pleasure, relax into her body and work towards releasing any old wounds, guilt, shame or fears of iinadequacy before embarking on reacquainting herself with her body.
Communciation is very much a part of this process. Checking in to ensure that her needs, desires, expectations and boundaries are being respected is essential to creating an environment where the woman can feel safe and secure. Communicaiton techinques will be discussed throughout to assist the woman in finding her voice. Learning how to ask for what she needs and desires while also gaining confidence that she can also express any dislikes, fears and boundaries without fear of rejection.
Many different emotions can surface for the woman during the massage. A veritable rollercoaster. The woman will be in a discrete and safe space, free of judgement and safe in the knowledge that every aspect of her massage will be held in the strictest of confidence.
For others, orgasm or even mulitiple orgasms can occur. This can be frigtening for some who have never experienced this before and everyone reacts in their own unique way. A
So as you can see, not quite as straight forward as you might of thought! But what did you expedt? We are Woman after all
Have a great day!